****EDIT: oops, it's not tuesday. wow.*************
i'm sorry i've been so vague about what's been going on the last few days.
sometimes, life can be a bit overwhelming to me, but God has a plan!
things are going much smoother now, though. :)
just a quick question for your morning...
does your perfectionism with food help you, or hurt you?
are you too hard on yourself about your eating habits? do you expect healthy perfection all day long, with no "mess-ups?" do you feel guilty about "cheats?"
i had a great conversation last week with a sweet, dear friend about our childhood struggles with weight.
we were both always very challenged/afraid by food, and our weights reflected that (hello, yo-yo dieting!). so when she brought up how easy it is to feel defeated by food, i knew she had made an important point.
how often do we let one cookie derail our feelings about the whole day? how often do we beat ourselves up for eating something "bad?"
i always used to let my food dictate my emotions. if i ate "good food," then i had a much happier day. but if i was "bad," then the whole day was a wash.
i felt like i was a total failure because of my food. i let food beat me...!
sad to say, but sometimes, if i ate a cookie or two, it would start the snowball of emotions... "well, i've already screwed up today, so i might as well have some cake now..." and everyday, i would feel so hopeless about how i had eaten.
here's the thing - we have the total opposite view on food that we should.
first of all, what you eat DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. your value is based on much bigger things - God created you PERFECT just as you are. He didn't say you were beautiful if you only ate organic, grass-fed, or whatever. God doesn't think you're good because of your diet.
no, you are WONDERFUL today, regardless of if you are eating Oreos (or not).
but we tend to just zero in on the one thing that was less than ideal, and let it defeat us.
what i always missed was all the good things i did for my body other than eat the cookie. i totally missed the fact that i ran in the morning, ate a healthy breakfast, got an A+ on a test, drank water instead of soda, etc.
i let the one "less than healthy" thing total ruin my day... and that's so backwards!
and really, who cares about a stupid cookie!?!?
when we try to be healthy, we think healthy equals perfect.
my sweet friend explained she felt like healthy people don't ever get tempted by sweets, ever give in to indulgences, and have perfectly balanced diets...
no wonder she felt like a failure!
healthy does NOT mean never eating dessert. it does not mean having more willpower than someone else. it doesn't mean militant perfection.
what it does mean is making good choices for your health. healthy eating is about baby steps towards your goals - a longer, happier life, a more active life, and a disease-free life.
keep your attitude in check - what would happen if instead of slamming ourselves for eating a cookie, we praised ourselves for all the good choices we make?
i think we should do ourselves a HUGE favor, guys, and cut ourselves some slack! it's only when i realized there are no good or bad foods that i could let go of my hopeless feeling around foods, and actually enjoy eating.
when you don't think you're a bad person because of eating a cookie, life is so much more balanced!
and really - if eating cookies makes you a bad person, i should be on America's Most Wanted :)
let's forgive ourselves, move on, and remind ourselves how amazing me are!
do you feel defeated by food?
do you feel guilty for eating something "not healthy?"